When the Nanny Has To Discipline
When the Nanny Has To Discipline
Punishment, Discipline & Positive Correction
Punishment and discipline both encompass punishment. On the other hand, positive correction involves making things right. Simply stated, the living room must be cleaned if it is a mess. We are responsible for guiding the children in our care through this process. We must comprehend child development and employ positive correction.
To discuss positive correction, we must comprehend the following:
Punishment: Punishment imparts a consequence for a child's wrongdoing. It involves making a child "pay" for his mistakes. Sometimes, a parent's desire to administer punishment originates from frustration. Occasionally, it originates from desperation. In an effort to send a clear message that a child's behavior must change "or else," a parent may feel compelled to scream, strike, or withdraw all privileges the child has ever had.
Punishment aims to control a child, not teach the child how to conduct himself. And typically, punishment affects how a child perceives himself.
A child who is subjected to severe punishment may come to believe, "I'm bad." Rather than thinking he made a poor decision, he may feel he is a terrible person. Authoritarian parents are more likely to discipline their children. As with spanking, the purpose of punishment is to cause physical agony and anguish.
Discipline: Discipline teaches children new skills, including how to manage their behavior, solve problems, and cope with unpleasant emotions. Discipline enables children to learn from their errors and to develop socially acceptable coping mechanisms for negative emotions, such as anger and disappointment. Techniques for discipline include time-outs and the removal of privileges.
The goal is to provide children with different negative consequences that will assist them in making better decisions in the future.
Discipline requires a commanding approach. When children are disciplined in a healthy way, they are given rules to follow and are met with regular consequences for disobeying those rules. Additionally, consequences are time-sensitive. When a child refuses to turn off the television, a parent may punish them by taking it away for 24 hours.
Positive Correction: Positive correction centers on gentleness, patience, and more explanatory with a child. Each stage of childhood development has various positive correction systems that can be integrated that are more essential and effective for that specific stage. Positive correction does not disregard the need for discipline and consequences with a child. Still, it seeks to create healthier and gentler practices so that you and the child are both happier and, ideally, can develop a highly supportive relationship that will last a lifetime.
Positive correction establishes healthy communication and emotional patterns between you and a child. Positive correction has been found to encourage improved attentiveness, communication, cooperation, and emotional development in children. Young children continually attempt to make sense of the world and their emotions, and some days will be more challenging than others. According to research, when parents adhere carefully to the nurturing techniques mentioned in this parenting style, children generally exhibit more positive behavior and are more emotionally aware. They are typically able to resolve conflicts with peers and siblings more effectively, and they also develop a higher level of self-esteem.
Positive Correction Empowers Learning
Yelling teaches yelling, and scolding teaches scolding. Learning happens when we correct behavior with a statement of what we DO want. "I want to go outside too. Let's pick up this room as well as we can and go out." go miles further than "Are you kidding me? No! We are not going outside! This room is a mess!"
Raise your voice only in dangerous situations and try to say "no" and "stop" at only that time. Children pay attention when that tone and those words are rare because it is out of the ordinary. When common, it has little meaning and becomes background noise.
In instances of one child hitting another, comfort the child who has been hit (even if they seem unaffected) and asks if they are ok. Please make a point of telling them both that you like gentle touches. You should be able to stop this behavior in a matter of days. Do not feed the negative behavior but rather encourage empathy and kindness.
Does this seem too soft? Ineffective? It is not. Focusing on what needs to happen and what you expect always has a way of creating the change you want to see. What you focus on will expand.
Approaching Positive Correction with your Employer
Mentioning positive corrections during the interview is an excellent method to evaluate the parents' openness to the technique. Consistency is essential to success. The benefits of practicing positive correction are outstanding!
Even if you are already working with a family that employs a distinct strategy, you should continue in the same manner. It will strengthen your relationship with the children you deal with and adjust their behavior to be more positive and compassionate. Parents may learn from your example or inquire about your success. It stimulates conversation!
We all desire peaceful days and joyful children. The role of a child is to challenge us. We must be firm. Corrective feedback provides the fortitude to do so!